Any other year I might be getting ready for my Anti-Valentines Party. The invitation reads: “for the lonley, rejected, and broken-hearted.” It wasn’t really that I hated Valentines Day [I secretly love ALL holidays], it’s just that Valentines Day is one holiday I’ve never really been successful with - whether in or out of a relationship.
This year I find myself recently out of what I thought might be that life-long relationship I was searching for. But I am in a different place now than I have been in years past. I have a different perspective. I understand now that relationship didn’t work because it wasn’t right for me. I knew I needed to let go. He wasn’t in the same place - we weren’t on the same path.
At first I felt the pain and the brokenness. But, I think it’s the hope that relationship held that I miss. I’m not broken-hearted. I’m not feeling lonely. I have no regrets. When I find myself reflecting or feeling sad I am reminded to turn my attention outward. Extending compassion and being a source of love for others is an instant cure for any sadness I may find.
When you begin to open your heart you realize it has an amazing capacity for hope - a strength, a resilience, and an unbelievable courage. When you allow your heart to be touched by another you begin to understand how vast and limitless it is, and you realize how much space you have to give, to accept, to forgive, to feel and to love.
I know that it’s hard to be alone on this holiday. I’ve been there. I understand there is pain and feelings of loneliness. But when you are feeling low, turn your focus inside out and know this: The secret to finding bliss on this day [on any day] isn’t to be IN love, but to BE love.